Annie asked:


My husband and I belong to a large fundraising club. My husband spends most all of his time going around and talking to women. He will just walk away from me letting me stand alone to go talk with other women? And other women come up to him a lot to talk to him and some talk into his ear! I am getting so tired of this. We are married, I feel he should not be around all these women and talk to men more.
I have seen flirting going on also. I need some help.

fundraising

10 Responses to “Is it normal for husbands to socialize a lot with other women at large fundraising club?”

1. Dave C on September 1st, 2009 9:58 am

   Well it really depends is he trying to get them to donate by using his charm?

   If not ya he enjoys the temptation of flirting but probably isn’t taking it further

   Have you looked in the mirror lately? Maybe you got something to work on as well

2. GetlostStaylost on September 2nd, 2009 3:14 pm

   As long as you feel you can trust him, he’s just doing some harmless talking. If being a flirt at fundraising club is all it takes to keep your husband happy, be glad!

3. Elanshaw on September 5th, 2009 2:56 am

   I wouldn’t be comfortable with it.
   It would be better if you and him can socialize together.

4. mel on September 8th, 2009 5:45 am

   Whether or not if it’s normal is not the question. Ask yourself, Am I willing to stand around and accept this. My husband is just like that and what’s bad is he doesn’t even realize when he is doing it. I bring it to his attention. I let him know that it is unacceptable and makes me feel some type of way. He’s very understanding and apologetic. But I understand that not everyone is the same so if you bring it up to your husband he may get offended and aggravated. I think you should stand up and speak up. You don’t have to confront him in front of the people, just let him know at home or before the event. Let him know your feelings and don’t hold back. You and your partner should be able to communicate on that level. And flirting is a whole other story… Stand up , Speak out. You have a voice. Use it

5. Flying mop dog on September 9th, 2009 2:11 am

   You need to get over your possessiveness or you will end up divorced.

6. Borincano on September 10th, 2009 10:36 am

   Well, to be honest, we’re probably in different socioeconomic stratospheres. But i have lived in places that were full of people as you described. Honestly, they seem to like having their ego pumped up a lot, the guys i’ve seen like that are constantly looking around to make sure ladies are checking them out, it reaffirms their manhood. I think it’s a joke, it’s called insecurity. If i were you, i’d call him on it, letting him know you’re not ok with it. Then the ball is in his court. What he decides to do from there determines how honest and towards you he is. Honesty and trust are big in a marriage. In the upper middle class, you wouldn’t BELIEVE how many guys i know of that i’ve come into contact with traveling that have to “work late nights at the office”, then laugh about it. The woman puts up with it because she wants to live that lifestyle financially. It’s up to you to oxycute the pimple before it gets full blown, know what i mean?

7. dog lover on September 10th, 2009 11:37 pm

   I can assure you, you will either lose this husband or have to tolerate him having all kind of affairs going on in your life.

   You should have stopped such a situation by all means the first time when you saw the flirting and told him in a serious manner how it had hurted your feeling and should not let such a situation continue.

   If it is a voluntary job, you and hm should quit it. If he thinks this marriage is important to him, he should accept your request.

   It is no longer a trust issue but a matter of probability, just too high.

8. Morgan on September 13th, 2009 2:53 pm

   depends what was he doing

9. Animal Seeking Kindness on September 14th, 2009 3:37 pm

   Annie your just a jealous LOSER.
   I think since your acting liek a punk he deserves bettert than you, Obviously he can move on without you, no problem finding another woman. his life isnt about tending you you you little princess.
   your so CLingy get a life bytch

10. Cesaria Barbarossa (R.I.P. Tina) on September 15th, 2009 2:41 pm

    If your husband isn’t actively trying to fundraise, then he’d be suspect. He could be just shmoozing and being charming to raise dough, but you probably know that more than I do.